Renovation project - A bad day in France (I've had enough)
This morning it is time to paint the new dining room, this is a job I
will be doing as John continues on the little house.
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The walls are not good in this room and the ceiling is worse, John has
worked on them, but they are a bit patchy, I scrap off the old paint.
John starts me off with the knocking in (this is where you do your edges
and corners), and I do the same thing, but somehow it is wrong, he shows me
again and leaves me to it.
He comes back and I am not quick enough and I am using too much paint, I
am getting quite pissed off now.
He shows me how to do a thin coat with the roller, this is a roller on a
stick, John can roller from top to bottom in one stoke, I cannot, the stick is too
big and the roller is to heavy, but I continue, yet again, I am doing it wrong.
He is in such a bad mood and the atmosphere is awful. It isn’t helping
that the plumbing job he is doing keeps going wrong.
We don’t row but the sniping is terrible, I feel like crap, John doesn’t
feel any better and the day continues in this vein.
At this point I start to feel quite lonely, yes I have some good friends
here, but they are at work or are joint friends, so I can’t ring them and moan
about John.
Sometimes there will be days like this, they are just bad days, but you
are far from your family, so they seem to be far worse. The day does not
improve, the work continues, but at this moment I feel that I have had enough.
I think with all the ill health and things that have gone wrong this
year, we both actually need a proper break, it is only a few weeks before we go
on holiday, but we had wanted to be finished before we left, that will not
happen. But, so what, it will be here when we get back, the holiday is a
definite priority and luckily it is all booked and paid for. Portugal here we
come!
When you are doing a project like this it is not all sunshine and rose
gardens, some days will be bad, some days you will both feel like crap, but you
get over these days, you support each other and allow each other to have bad
days, you recognise them for what they are, bad days, nothing more nothing
less.
A night with a bottle of wine and a good film and roaring fire,
apologies all round and it is time to go to bed and get up for a new day, which
will hopefully be back to normal. If you expect these days once in a while,
your life will be much easier.
I think we all have days like this, wherever we are, but it must be amplified by being so far from family and loved ones. I hope tomorrow is a better day. Sometimes the sniping is more draining than a full all out row.
ReplyDeletethank you, and yes the sniping is far worse, but it was just a bad day, tomorrow was back to normal :)
Delete((((hugs)))) for you both . . .
ReplyDeleteJ x
thank you :) x
DeleteWe love your blog as it is so inspirational and you are SO honest.
ReplyDeleteThis is just a storm in a teacup and once you sit down and relax things
will look better straight away. Bet you are both toasting in front of
the fire at this moment!
Wendy (Wales)
thank you, we try to make it as honest as possible and days like this will happen. but as you say sat in front of a roaring fire, it all slides away :)
DeleteThey say if you can build a house or renovate a house with your hubby and not end up divorced...You have a good strong marriage. There was a few times when we built our house and if it hadn't put hubby out of commission I would have tossed a hammer at his little head. ;) We made it and it sounds like you guys will too. The end result will be worth it and you'll love sharing it together and remembering the when and how of it. Then you'll move on to other things you'll want to whack him over the head for. hahaha! I think you guys are doing a beautiful job of re-doing your home. :)
ReplyDeletethank you, and I completely understand your hammer comment ;) this is the 2nd one, so we know there will be bad days, but as you say once it is finished and we can sit back and enjoy, the bad days are soon forgotten :)
DeleteIt certainly sounds like you guys need that break, after all this is your second house, will there be a third? Take care you two
ReplyDeletewe do definitely need a break, who knows what is next? we have a few more good building years left in John ;)
DeleteRenovations are always difficult, especially when you have to deal with things going wrong or if things don't turn out the way you want them to.It's good that bad days alternate with good days when you feel good about what you accomplished so far, or no one would ever start a renovation project ever again. :)
ReplyDeleteyes luckily the bad days are few and far between, but it won't stop us :)
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