Renovation project - Disaster strikes
We are having a great trip visiting family and I have visits planned with friends and my big birthday treat, tea at the Hilton, I am really excited about this and have new clothes and everything, but then the unthinkable happens, my mum is taken ill following a simple hospital procedure yesterday, this means a trip to the hospital, but I have had a glass of wine, luckily my daughter can meet my parents at the hospital, hopefully they won’t be too long.
We keep in touch by phone until my daughter tells me my mum is being transferred to another hospital much further away, I wait a few hours and drive to be with my dad, still hopeful that it will be sorted quickly.
It isn’t and a few days later she is transferred again to a specialist hospital in Liverpool.
I arrive to meet her there, this is not a nice drive, I am going into a city I don’t know and driving on the wrong side of the road!
I wait all day until I know the operation was successful. She will still need to be kept in for quite a while. This is the thing that we have been most scared of moving too France, what happens if serious illness strikes, both sets of parents are not getting any younger.
I am just so glad that we were actually in the UK, but those nagging doubts start to creep in, we only have one set of parents and we are leaving them behind when they may need us the most.
We stay in the UK until I know that she is as recovered as possible, but it is now difficult to leave, we have been here much longer than we had ever planned, but I am still in two minds about going, what if something goes wrong, what if she needs me? I have been acting as go between with all the different departments will this now fall to my daughter, should I put her in that situation? So many questions and no answers, I am leaving my brother and sister and my daughter to do what should traditionally be my job.
Am I selfish?
Is this how life should be?
Will we be able to carry on enjoying our new life if we are living with guilt?
The real answer is nobody knows what will happen in the future, but you can’t live a life based on what if’s, if you do nobody would do anything, we are going back to France, we know we can get to the UK quickly if needed and we know that my parents will need a nice holiday as soon as they are up to it.
So if the idea of aging parents has put you off making this move, this is something you will have to live with, but if you stay in the same country it does not necessarily mean you will be available, we can go back at any time without the worry of work, so maybe I am in a better position than I thought.